You can speak up, ask, beg and scream while many times what you are looking to communicate goes unheard or misunderstood. When this happens I throw my hands up in the air and light a lot of candles. This is my way of surrendering to higher forces and trusting spirit is at work. Usually the result of my asking for whatever it is combined with the feeling of deep trust in the forefront of my consciousness brings me exactly what I need. Typically it shows up better than planned and after a couple of years or so I can reflect back and say it was all perfect.
My candle lighting always includes objects that I find pretty and calming. Here are three mini candlelit altars that I've made in the past two months.